Thursday, 5 July 2018

Back at it

It’s been a year and four months since I last wrote a post on here, having completely fallen out of love blogging, I thought I would bite the bullet and start again. A lot has changed in the time since I last wrote, I now have three books in the works, and am trying to build up a freelance writing career, which if you could tell anything about me at all, you would of noticed by now, I don’t do anything in half’s, and seem to have the knack for picking some of the hardest jobs to get into in the world! That said, I wouldn’t have it any other way! I’m the type of person who loves to work from home and create my own path, let’s be honest, I was not made for 9-5 jobs or working in the retail sector, and do you know what? That’s okay! It’s okay to feel like you don’t belong anywhere, I know I never had, it’s okay to say “I don’t want a mundane job” and then go after what you really want to do! Now I’m not going to say I haven’t been lazy and there’s some days that I will literally do zero, but I make sure the next day I always get back up on the horse and get shit done! Also I’m not going to say that it isn’t hard work, trying to build an empire so to speak on your own can be mentally draining, and a few times I’ve let my depression absolutely consume me and I’ve wanted to give up, but you’ve got to keep going. They say it takes 10 years to become an over night success, and due to the shit I’ve already gone through in my life I’ve come to the party late, at 24 I can’t see me living anywhere near comfortably until I’m 34, well... probably a hell of a lot later than that! But once again... that’s okay! I know I will get where I need to be at some point, as for now I’m just not going to give up, take one day at a time and work my ass off! 

Tuesday, 7 March 2017

An Average Day

My mind is always willing, my body not so much.
This is my daily battle, there's so much I want to do with my days, but what do I actually do?  An average day for me is this...
-Struggle to start wake up and start my day, body is screaming for more sleep.
-Hunger, but body refuses food
-Get a little work done, i.e respond to emails, work on book.
-Think of all the things I need to do.
-End up wasting the day in a tired state, usually end up watching crappy day time TV
-Spend evenings in reading books.
This is pretty much my life 24/7 no change at the weekend either, not what you would expect from a 22 year old right?
Am I just stuck in a never ending rut? Or am I spending my days just in a dreamworld longing for more? Or is it that I'm doing the one thing I swore I would never do, and am letting my disease control me?
To be honest I have no idea, and I really don't know how to change it, my energy levels are so depleted right now, I'm not sure how to sort it out. I've always suffered from depression, (I was put on antidepressants at a very young age) I could blame it on this, but I don't think it is depression, my life is actually pretty good at the moment, financially I'm fine,  I don't want for anything really, apart from medical stuff everything's fine, so why am I living like a fucking zombie?  (I know financial state should determine your mental state but it does to me okay?)
(I usually start these post with a subject that I want to write about and then all of a sudden I always go onto tangents and i have no idea, where I am going with it? Is my attention span that short?)
Is it because I don't have regular contact with anyone else apart from my family?
Now I've never been one to have female friendships, I never did as a child and I still don't as an adult, I was always the girl that had more male friends than females, and that isn't uncommon, I find it hard to form friendships with females, far to complex and confusing for me, and plus I've found in female friendships I always become the passive friend allowing the other person to walk all over me, now that may be due to my fear of confrontation but then again saying that, I have no issue's with arguing with men. Are you as confused as I am? Good, because I can't really explain it myself! Are you like me? Not really able to get along in friendships with people the same gender as you? Maybe I'll grow out of it one day, because I'd love to have a friendship like the one's you see in shitty movies, where two friends rent an apartment together, have a laugh, and drink every night, but I'm almost positive that will never happen for me. Never mind.
But... On the other hand I barely see my male friends also, mostly because their all pretty much in relationships, and we all know male/female platonic friendships have to be put on hold whilst one is in a relationship, a bullshit rule really, but one that everyone seems to follow.
Is it the lack of friendship getting to me?
Or is it the lack of a romantic relationship?
My nature is to be a submissive, but that doesn't mean I wont argue with you, or bow down to your every need, but is that effecting my romantic relationships, I've never felt girly in my life, I'm not someone who oozes sex appeal or every really feels sexy, and due to past relationships my self worth is very low. (Working on it) I trust easily, fall quickly, and always seem to be hurt even quicker, my own stupidity I know, also the factor I've implemented a stupid thought that my time is rapidly running out, my parents where married and had my older brother and me by the time they got to the age I am now, and when I was younger I always thought I'd be married and have a child of my own by the time I reached 21, obviously not. Not having a child doesn't worry me, like that is the furthest thing from my mind right now, kids can wait, uncertain if I even want them anymore due to past problems I never thought in my wildest dreams I would go through, but I did, and life goes on, but being young and having not one other person interested in you is really disheartening, maybe I'm just over thinking things. (Tend to do that quite a lot)
I don't know I just want more from life, the endless stream of days that are so similar are just getting to me, and I need to make a change before more years slip by and I end up completely sad and alone.
Horay for being one cheery motherfucker!

Sunday, 1 January 2017

January 1st

So that's it then...
The festive season has come and gone, and I feel 100lbs heavier but hey ho I enjoyed myself, looking back at 2016 and it hasn't been that bad for me personally, I mean the grim reaper has definitely done it's rounds and we have lost so many talented and inspirational people this year, and Brexit happened, and trump won, so regardless of everything else,  2016 will go down as one of the worst years. EVER!!!!

But what has happened for me this year?

Well... I finally got free of a long term toxic relationship and have cut ties with other people that were not benefiting my life, I started to write a children's book, which I don't have a lot left to do on, and I finally got a medical diagnosis after 2-3 years of suffering, so I suppose it cant be all that bad, well apart from the 49 tablets I have to take weekly, the fortnightly blood tests and other surgical procedures I have to endure this year, but the biggest thing I've learned this year is... How fucking strong I am... emotionally.

I have personally endured so much shit in the past few years and I'm still going, stronger than ever, I know I sound like I'm blowing smoke up my own ass, but it honestly hit me this year, I can deal with a lot of shit and move on. Loosing one of my childhood friends due to suicide bought on by depression might have something to do with this realisation, God bless her soul. But this year has been about finding that inner strength and continuing.

I must admit though I have had a rather laid back approach to friendships this year, but saying that a friendship that I held so very dearly was destroyed and rebuilt this year, so that's all good, and I must try harder next year, although we can go for weeks without talking then meet up and its like we never spent time apart.

After a year of not working I cant wait to start working again this year, its been far too long, and I need to start making decent money, so I can afford to actually do things, whilst saving, although I've realised I am absolutely crap at maths. Each month when I budget out my money for the month. come the end I always have more left than I thought I would, I suppose that's not necessarily something to complain about, but it can be very confusing!

I'm not the type of person to make resolutions, but if I have to they would be..

( Pretty much all medical related haha)

1~Keep my weight under control, (Steroids are playing havoc with my body)

2~Take better care of myself internal and external ( Again bloody Dermatomyositis playing havoc)

3~Keep a daily journal just to keep check on everything.

4~Have at least two weekends away somewhere in Europe.

5~Finally buy a car.

6~Start work again.

7~And last but not least push myself to do something different.

Yay... seven resolutions, pretty apt seen as seven is my favourite number! Lets hope 2017 is an amazing year, I think we all deserve it after this one!

What do you want in 2017? What are your resolutions?