Wednesday, 9 March 2016

Equality not Feminism

Feminism has come along way, us as women are getting what we want now more than ever but what really is feminism?

Feminism is a range of political movements, ideologies and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve equal political, economic, cultural, personal, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment.

But my point is have we gone too far? Feminism is about equality, complete equality, but it seems today (or media portrayal) that we are trying to be "better" than men, and have moved away from the true meaning of what it actually is to be a feminist and that's what I do not call myself one, I believe we should be equal, so why are we only dealing with matters that affect us as women, why not stand up for Men's rights as well?

A study found out every year in England and wales around 12,000 men are raped I know that's a big difference to the 85,000 women that are, but my point is most men will not come forward and say they have been, so therefor the number is probably a lot higher, and why don't we hear about such cases on the news, I myself have heard men who have been raped told "well if a woman forces you to have sex with her its not rape" or "don't lie you loved it really" us as women focus on the "not asking for it" campaign but is there the same for men? Why should that be overlooked? And why are there so many false rape claims against men? I believe women should be prosecuted for false claims, this is a subject that really hit home for me a few years ago when someone I love had one of these false claims put towards them, and I tell you now, it nearly destroyed his life, even though he knew he hadn't done anything wrong. Luckily due to evidence the case was dropped, but she wasn't prosecuted for it! It was kind of swept under the rug and never spoken about again. Even though he lost his job, many friends and even family members turned their own backs on him. How it that okay?

Did you know three quarters of suicides in the UK are men?! Why aren't we doing something about this, we have come so far with mental health in the past few years, the level should not be so high! Why is our portrayal of men so warped? Why do we see them as, they have to be strong, not talk about their feelings, just to get on and deal with it? Why don't we target campaigns to them, tell them its not a sign of weakness to open up, and deal with their issues! Show them that help is available, all they need to do it ask, every suicide campaign I've seen has been targeted to women, when men are the ones who are suffering more, these campaigns need to stop being gender biased and open themselves up to everyone.

UK government statistics show 1 in 6 men will be victims of domestic abuse in their lifetime, yet adverts only show the side of men abusing women, why is that? Yet again why do we have the view that women cant abuse men, its a load of bollocks, campaigns should be targeted to both sexes, because it affects us all! Men can just as easily be abused as women, and yet these cases remain behind closed doors never to see light because there's a stigma attached to it, men are supposed to be the kings of their own castles, so to speak, and if their not, we as a country don't know what to do about such things, how can a women abuse a man its seems to be preposterous in todays standards, when it is happening right now, and we need to put an end to it, not only for men but to everyone suffering domestic abuse.

Now you may read this post and think I'm anti women or anti feminism, but I'm not, women have done amazing things and were not to be overlooked. I just feel feminism should be about complete equality what a man can do, we can do, we should have equal pay, yet at the same time, if we want equal pay we should be willing to work the same hours as men do.

We should be making sure the same mental health treatment is available to men without the stigma of being "weak" attached to it! We should encourage men to talk about their feelings and as a collective lower the shocking suicide rate.

Feminism should be about focusing on problems that affect all of us and making a change to that, and I don't want you to read this and think that I don't care about womens issues, because I do, I just feel like the world would benefit more if we focused on being equal and stop trying to one up eachother.

What are your views on feminism? Do you disagree or agree with the points i've made?  Love to hear your comments on this :)